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Photography By: Emmanuel Jambo – www.emmanueljambo.com
Location: Chaka Ranch, Nyeri – www.chakaranch.com

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So here I am now as Mrs. Ndichu! It is amazing because I have only ever been called Ms. Mbugua for decades, but I like how my new title feels. It is like a clean slate, a new identity but I am still very much Janet.

I have never been a fan of wedding talk or all the fuss and pomp that comes with it. But I had my wedding (with the same pomp and I colour I had often found over-the-top!), loved my wedding and learned a lot from it. 

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THE TEN THINGS I LEARNED FROM MY WEDDING:

1. Budget – Have a budget and try as much as possible to stick within its bracket. Point to note: if your budget supersedes what you or your partner earn in a year, you're not being very smart about cost. Think of your life BEYOND the wedding day. There'll be tones of expenses to deal with, so don't go broke planning a wedding, in a way that will make you struggle to get by for the rest of the year. 

2. Wedding Planner – Choose your Planner wisely! A Wedding Planner coordinates all the different aspects of the Wedding with the help of a Committee. A disorganized Wedding Planner can easily ruin your Wedding Day. Take time to ask your Networks for likely Candidates and interview each one to ensure that they meet with your expectations. 

3. Pregnant and Planning a Wedding – If pregnant and planning a wedding, be sure to have a great team around you in case you're too fatigued to carry out some of the planning yourself. The one thing that I feel a bit bad about is that I was sick throughout most of the planning for my wedding day, I let a lot of things slip because I just didn't have the energy to attend key meetings or run around to ensure certain things where running smoothly (thus the importance of getting a great Wedding Planner!). Alternatively, wait until you've had the baby, settle down a bit and then plan the wedding. Do what works for you!

4. Committee? Yes? No? Maybe? – Decide early on if you want a Committee or not. Some people prefer to just go with a Wedding Planner, which is fine, but a Committee can also help you keep check of what's happening on the ground on the day, particularly if you have a large wedding. We had a great Committee and are still so grateful to them for helping us make our Wedding day a success!

5. Bridal Wear – There are quite a few local Designers who are making Wedding Gowns. We went with local designers (in Kenya and abroad) for our Gown as well as our Bridal Party wear. On the up side, if you choose a local Designer you can constantly make changes and keep check of how the outfits are progressing and you also end up empowering our Creative Industry. You can however go with a Gown and Suit from aboard and make the changes at home. Either way, do what makes sense for you.

6. Destination or Not – Choose early on if you want to have a destination wedding or one where you live. I always knew I'd have a destination wedding, as did my husband. There are pluses and minuses to this. On the plus side, you get to choose a scenic venue that sums up your dream destination. But that depends on whether or not you'll be inviting many people.  Remember that a destination wedding can also be expensive, especially if you're inviting many people. 

7. Handling Family Drama – Now it goes without saying that most weddings have a lot of drama going on behind the scenes. Think about it; two families are coming together, with their different value systems, views on life, levels of exposure. This can get heated. Bottom line is, from very early on, learn what each side of the family is willing to bring to the table. While it's tradition that the Groom's side should foot the entire bill, times have changed. It's ok for the Bride's side to chip in. But this SHOULD be agreed upon early on so as to manage expectations. If from very early on you can see that certain family members are not particularly keen on helping out financially on the day, then decide whether you'd rather keep it intimate so as to manage finances, or find financing from somewhere else. But this is VERY crucial.

8. Grooming and Vendors – Be sure to have done hair and make up trials early on to decide who you'd want to work with on the day. Be fussy and specific. It's your day so don't compromise or listen to people trying to tell you how you should look. Regarding vendors, agree early on on the rates and agree on when you'll clear their payments. It's not fun to have your honeymoon interrupted with people asking when you'll clear their balance. You tell them to give you a week or two, even more, to reconcile the payments. Alternatively, you can organize your finances and pay them immediately after the wedding. To all vendors; the well being and peaceful state of mind of the Couple is very important and the day is about them. If they've wronged you or made you unhappy for one reason or the other, wait until AFTER the wedding to talk to them about it. Do NOT settle scores with the Couple before their wedding. It can throw them off.

9. Pray – A friend of ours gave us this advice; as a Couple, the day before your wedding, hold hands and pray with each other and for each other. Reassure each other and ease each other's anxiety. It made a world of a difference for us. We were really relaxed and on the same page on our wedding day and I know that prayer gave us that perspective. 

10. No matter what, smile. Be happy. Those pictures and memories are for life so don't let the fact that your decor wasn't the sky blue you had in mind or that the center pieces you ordered didn't come out as you'd wanted, affect your day. Yes, these are terribly unfortunate situations, given that you may have spent so much time planning and putting your vision together. But that morning, make a decision to be happy no matter what. That's truly what got me through my day. 

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Thank You:

  • Wachira Waruru for being such a gracious Host and inviting us to hold our Wedding Ceremony and Reception at Chaka Ranch, Nyeri.  www.chakaranch.com
  • The Staff of Chaka Ranch led by Reuben Kagai for providing wonderful and timely service during the Pre-Wedding planning and Wedding Day.             
  • Pastor David Kabibi of Nairobi Chapel for officiating over our Wedding Ceremony in such a lively and honest manner. 
  • Christopher Kirwa – Master Of Ceremonies for our wedding

  • Dickson Ngunjiri of DENT for providing Public Address System, Stage, Truss and Lighting for our Wedding. http://www.dent.co.ke/ 
  • DJ Adrian and Team for providing outstanding entertainment for our Wedding Reception and Evening Party. http://deejayadrian.com
  • Loky Zee for Design, Tailoring of the Groom's Grey Whistle Handmade Tuxedo. 
  • Boutique Mahali loacated on Wood Avenue, Kilimani – Nairobi, Kenya for Design & Tailoring of Bridal Party Outfits and Suits. Mobile: 0705262214
  • Muthoni Njoba's Team led by Kayte Macharia and assisted by Ruth Kinuthia for providing Makeup Services for the Bride and Bridesmaids. www.muthoninjoba.com
  • Leo's Salon, Barber and Spa headed by Leonard Kimiti Ngugi for providing Hair Styling Services for the Bride and Bridesmaids. Leo's Salon, Barber and Spa, Garden City Mall, Along Thika Road, Exit 7. 

  • Mudi's Cakes and Pastries located First Floor, Adams Arcade, Nairobi for preparing the delicious Wedding Cake and Cupcakes.

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129 Discussion to this post

  1. Ash ley says:

    I’m almost tearing. The gown, the spectacular setting, the maids and everything else is breathtaking. I must say your journey got me thinking deeply. If it doesn’t work with your budget then it simply doesn’t work for you. wedding is more like a pass to your marriage. I’m impressed Mrs. Ndichu! An awesome piece it is.

  2. Barbzy says:

    I love this blog! And I j’adore that dress and everything else! OMG! I’m in love! ??
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  7. Tanui Faith says:

    Wow !! Janet you are an Inspiration , Point no 9 Wins it….9. Pray – A friend of ours gave us this advice; as a Couple, the day before your wedding, hold hands and pray with each other and for each other. Reassure each other and ease each other’s anxiety. It made a world of a difference for us. We were really relaxed and on the same page on our wedding day and I know that prayer gave us that perspective.

  8. Dorothy Wachenje says:

    I loved your gown..you looked amazing in it..Great piece..Thumbs up Janet

  9. Dorothy Wachenje says:

    I loved your choice of the wedding gown..you looked amazing in it!
    A great read..Thumbs up Janet

  10. Dorothy Wachenje says:

    I loved your choice if wedding gown..you looked amazing in it!
    A great read..Thumbs up Janet

  11. Tynner says:

    Your simplicity never fails to accentuate both your inner and outer beauty Mrs . Ndichu. All the best in your journey of life as you keep inspiring us to walk in your footsteps.

  12. Tynner says:

    Your simplicity never fails to accentuate both your inner and outer beauty Mr. Ndichu. All the best in your journey of life as you keep inspiring us to walk in your footsteps.

  13. Naomi says:

    Thanks Janet for sharing your story, you are such an inspiration.I have always loved the way you present yourself in news and the seriousness you have in your career.I'm married ,mother of two and enjoying my marriage.The secret behind this has been PRAYERS ,PRAYERS and PRAYERS.My dear dont tire to keep God first and you will suceed.I wish you God's blessings in your marriage and a smooth pregnancy .Great Work

  14. Chebet Mildred says:

    awesome,so inspiring and motivated. reason to believe

  15. hannah says:

    Hey Mrs Ndichu, I really appreciate you hun,ur inspiration to many,I find maself always going back to ur blog n reading again n again, may God bless u soo much n never get tired of inspiring us,ur a true n real role model to me n others out there,all the best n congratulations on ur upcoming baby,bless u Janet.mob love

    • Janet Mbugua says:

      Thank you so much my dear, those are kind words! Thank you for visiting my blog again and again. Can’t wait to keep sharing more with all of you! God bless 

  16. Emily says:

    Hi Janet you are my role model and i really appreciate whatever you are sharing with us.You are the best, may God bless your union and happy more days to come.I love you.

  17. Ciiru Muriuki says:

    Hi Janet, you inspire me big time, i like your approach on life and been following you keenly. i like your seriousness with your career and have learnt alot from you. You are a lady who respects herself and your blog is a good way of letting people know you deeper. as a lady who wants to settle down one day i am inspired by your take on how you handled your wedding and am impressed we have similar traits on a lot of areas. as i climb my career ladder i also hope one day i will be an inspiration to other ladies. Thanks girl i respect you. baraka

  18. Ciiru Muriuki says:

    Hi Janet, you inspire me big time, i like your approach on life and been following you keenly. i like your seriousness with your career and have learnt alot from you. You are a lady who respects herself and your blog is a good way of letting people know you deeper. as a lady who wants to settle down one day i am inspired by your take on how you handled your wedding and am impressed we have similar traits on a lot of areas. as i climb my career ladder i also hope one day i will be an inspiration to other ladies. Thanks girl i respect you big time. baraka

  19. Irene says:

    Amazing read. I’ve always muttered this to my God…. “Give me a calm heart in the world’s wild roar.. A heart like an ocean flows towards a peaceful shore…” All the best in your new life Mrs. Ndichu.

    • Janet Mbugua says:

      I love that Irene! 'A calm heart in the worlds wild roar'! I pray God hears you. Thanks for reading my posts 

  20. website says:

    Will share this post on facebook when I get home. On my iPhone at the moment. Great post.

  21. Silva Tutu says:

    You are so amazing… and you are gonna be an amazing mommy to an amazing child with an amazing Daddy…May God bless you and your family.
    ps; your website too is amazing

  22. Jackson Njehia says:

    Nice to meet you Mrs Ndichu. Used to know your friend Ms Mbugua :-)

  23. Jennipha says:

    I really loved your make up, it was just very simple but lovely.Thanks Janet for sharing your journey and May God bless your family

  24. MARIA ANN says:

    Hello Janet thank you very much for sharing wise ideas on wedding plans. May the good Lord bless your union
     

  25. veronicah says:

    Wow! reading this makes me love u even more…av always admired u..n now i long to see u personally not on Tv anymore..thank you for sharing….God bless your marriage

  26. Scovian Lilian says:

    A nice piece,how i wish prayer could have come first Janet.Wish you well

  27. Marie says:

    Great wedding it was,You looked very beautiful!.Thanks for sharing about the journey with us who desire to get maried one day.

    • Janet Mbugua says:

      Thank you Marie! Your time will come when it’s right, don’t feel any pressure at all. All the best!

  28. josephine Gakuya says:

    happie for you

     

  29. Gijo says:

    Great Blog.  I am one of your biggest fun.  Please let us in on how you met the love of your life.  I am enjoying every read :)

  30. Njoro says:

    I got the tips Janet..thank you for showing the way and setting an example,all the best in your endevours…God Bless you and your marriage life

  31. adeline says:

    You truly are an amazing inspiration may the Lord God hold you through the journey of parenthood. May He give you the wisdom and knowledge that you way need to walk through this journey.

  32. Carol Kamau says:

    Wow Janet you are truly an inspiration…..am learning alot.Wish you God's blessings in your marriage.

  33. Ciku says:

    Thank you Janet for sharing your story. You are always an inspiration.

  34. Rose Mithamo says:

    Hi Janet,at first i didnt like the idea and fuss about weddings but after reading your journey,it made me long for the big day. I hope it comes soon.Thanks for your story and please continue empowering women

    • Janet Mbugua says:

      I'm so happy to hear that Rose! It's true, wedding talk can be full of too much hype and too many expectations. Just stay calm and always be realistic. I wish you well on your big day! 

  35. kathure says:

    Amazingly beautiful….am too not a wedding gal but am inspired ad feeling ready for t….happy marriage there after Mrs.Ndichu

  36. Adel says:

    CONGS Janny..Have a blessed future

  37. Winnie koki says:

    Thanks Janet for sharing with us..am so happy for you ,remember some like us who are single to get good hubby 

  38. Fatuma Aliza says:

    Thanks for the advise Janet cnt wait to have my wedding ? ??

  39. fatuma says:

    Thanks Janet for the advise can’t wait to have my wedding ? as well ?

  40. Celle Kelly says:

    I just love your ideas.

  41. Muthoni Ikana says:

    This is amazing, congratulations dear, did ours when I was pregnant and supportive team is a key factor, thanks for sharing, blessed marriage

  42. Irene says:

    thanks Janet for sharing Ur Journey. I got married an year ago the same date as you. I can’t agree more that I did learn the same lessons when.planning for my big day
    Brides and Grooms should learn to do wat they want during their wedding and remember that it’s not about wat other pple want.It’s abt the 2 off U. Had a private wedding 20 persons. It was strictly a Nuclear Family affair.Planning had its challenges but that Was My Dream Wedding.Once again thanks for sharing your story

    • Janet Mbugua says:

      Hi Irene! Wow I’m proud of you, you managed to hold a wedding with 20 people? Well done! As long as it was your dream day that’s all that matters! Thank you for visiting my blog :-)

  43. Marish says:

    Thank you for sharing with us your ideas Mrs. Ndichu:-)

  44. Marish says:

    I absolutely love your ideas. It is worth considering. Thank you for sharing with us Mrs. Ndichu :-)

  45. Joseph Muchene says:

    Wish you all the best in your marriage life, and i like your humbleness for adopting the new name { Mr.s Ndichu } owing to the fact that your now ”former” name { Ms Mbugua } is really a big name in this country #bigup

  46. Joseph Muchene says:

    Thanks for the advice and be blessed

  47. Joseph Muchene says:

    Wow! This just perfect, am taking notes since i plan to wed April next year.

  48. Annshei Shyroh says:

    Lovely mrs Ndichu,wish u the very best in ur marriage.BE REAL,STAY HAPPY AND BLESSED ALWAYS.Mwaaaahest

  49. chichi says:

    Hongera Jane! Thank for so simply and clearly sharing your journey. Those are really helpful tips for those soon getting married.

  50. Francisca says:

    Congratulations & many blessings. Your Deress…..most super beautiful, elegant & most of All decent! !! Keep it up

  51. Everlyn Muya says:

    Congratulations once more dear…..Yes!a very nice piece of advice to us who are soon joining the club thankyou for being honest by sharing your journey….an iron sharpens iron,Wish you well dear

  52. Caroline Wangui Ngerema says:

    Phenominaaaal womaaaan,, right here,,thumbs up jano,,,u r an inspiration,,

  53. mirriam chelimo says:

    Thank you very much Janet for sharing your journey with me. Am inspired, I can’t stop reading it. Am also planing to do my wedding on December, have learned lot. I love everything about you janet. Keep empowering you girls and God will bless you abundantly. My role model forever.

    • Janet Mbugua says:

      Hi dear, congratulations on planning your wedding! I hope you’ll find my tips useful. I wish you a blessed day!

  54. Kantai grace says:

    my dear Janet…..you my role model….strongest of them all …kudos dear my insipiration

  55. Maratathi says:

    What in this earth is a center piece? Good advice but I think I will not do a wedding now.

  56. Linda says:

    Very beautiful photos..and your dress..woop!woop!Too gorgeous..!
    Congrats..happy for you..:-)

    http://www.lindasworldofstyle.blogspot.com

  57. Mohamed says:

    Congrats on both of You Janet U Inspired Many People … God Bless You ..

  58. Peris Nyambura says:

    Happy for you Janet.May God bless u and hubby.

  59. Mueni says:

    Mengi yamesemwa kukuhusu, mabaya na mazuri, lakini baada ya yote, umesimama imara. Endelea na moyo huo huo. Natumai siku moja tutazungumziana uso kwa uso, barikiwa kwenye ndoa dada.

  60. Beatrice says:

    Wow! You have really inspired me.Thank you Mrs. Ndichu.

  61. Rabby Kichwen says:

    blessings to the journey u’ve started gal

  62. Kwamboka says:

    Beautiful! beautiful! just beautiful

  63. faith nyambura says:

    Congrats Mr. and Mrs Ndichu may good Lord bless your marriage n thanks dear for inspiring me with your wonderful journey.

  64. Amazing!! and simply beautiful. Emmanuel did an amazing job!! congrats Janet.
    signed, new follower :)

  65. Muthoni says:

    Congratulations Mrs. Ndichu. I look forward to this incredible journey. Thank you for sharing such important part of your life, future brides and grooms there you go!

  66. Elle says:

    Congrats on both your Pregnancy and your wedding. So gad that I finally get to know the other side of you through your blog..
    http://www.proudlyelled.com

  67. RUTH says:

    Amazing thank you for inspiring me

  68. jane says:

    congrats janet,wish u a happy life,am your biggest fun..

  69. louisa ayeka says:

    advice no 1,7,9 very helful

  70. Purity says:

    I enjoy and appreciate good pieces. will be an adherent reader. Good work

  71. Caroline Wangui Ngerema says:

    Woow,,,I just like what am reading,, keep it up Janet,,aside from being the news anchor we all know and love,,we know you have a life too.Thank you for letting me be part of this journey through your blog#janetthejourney

  72. I am happy for you Janet!and l welcome you warmly in the journey and life of marriage!

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